{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD reWired","slug":"adhd-rewired-170907","podcast_index_feed_id":170907,"rss_url":"https://adhdbrainpod.libsyn.com/rss","website_url":"http://www.ADHDreWired.com","image_url":"https://static.libsyn.com/p/assets/5/4/1/9/54196121522b895516c3140a3186d450/Eric_-_Best_reWired_podcast_art_2.png","author":"Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP","episode_count":579,"summary":"The podcast for adults with ADHD. Hear stories, learn strategies, and get great productivity tips as we talk about the real-life struggles and what it takes to achieve success. Host, Eric Tivers, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, coach and entrepreneur (with ADHD) in private practice. Eric interviews a variety of guests. Many are people just like yourself, as well professionals, entrepreneurs, and ADHD experts.","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-rewired-170907"},"episode":{"title":"People Pleasing & ADHD: When \"Yes\" is a Nervous-System Response and How to Stop with Anita Sandoval, LPC - EP 555","slug":"people-pleasing-adhd-when-yes-is-a-nervous-system-response-and-how-to-stop-with-anita-sandoval-lpc-ep-555","published_at":"2025-08-11T08:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-rewired-170907/people-pleasing-adhd-when-yes-is-a-nervous-system-response-and-how-to-stop-with-anita-sandoval-lpc-ep-555","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-rewired-170907","url":"http://www.adhdrewired.com/555","audio_url":"https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/adhdbrainpod/People_Pleasing_and_ADHD.mp3?dest-id=184301","summary":"People-pleasing isn't a personality flaw—often it's a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to unpack how the fawn response shows up with ADHD, trauma, and RSD; how it differs from masking and conflict avoidance; and what real change looks like. We cover Anita's \"Empower → Resilient → Authentic\" model, ADHD-friendly EMDR adaptations, and the messy-but-worth-it work of boundaries (including with narcissistic family dynamics). Resources, Anita's links, and a quick survey about a potential evening coaching group are in the full notes at ADHDreWired.com. Guest: Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, EMDR-Certified, ADHD-CCSP — therapist, supervisor, and author of Broken Chains (English & Spanish). Host of Empowering Women in Conversations and creator of Empower Her Pathways. We cover: People-pleasing as a neuro-adaptive response (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) People-pleasing vs. conflict avoidance vs. masking ADHD & RSD: why \"neutral\" feedback stings and how regulation shifts it Differentiating from personality disorders (dependent/BPD) Hypervigilance, ACEs, and emotional regulation circuits Boundaries with narcissistic dynamics (including the \"victim narcissist\" pattern) Anita's staged model (Stages of Change × grief work): Unaware → Aware → Ready → Action → Maintenance → Integration (Empowered → Resilient → Authentic) Therapies that help ADHD brains: EMDR with resourcing, IFS/parts work, polyvagal-informed regulation Eric's EMDR story: from trigger spirals to co-regulation Try this: Notice your next automatic \"yes.\" Ask: Is this aligned with my values, or is my nervous system chasing safety? Then practice one tiny boundary this week and track before/during/after. Resources mentioned: Anita Sandoval — anitasandoval.com (course: Empow…","meta_description":"People-pleasing isn't a personality flaw—often it's a nervous-system strategy. Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD-CCSP Anita Sandoval joins Eric to…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":2701,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-rewired-170907/episodes/people-pleasing-adhd-when-yes-is-a-nervous-system-response-and-how-to-stop-with-anita-sandoval-lpc-ep-555/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-rewired-170907/people-pleasing-adhd-when-yes-is-a-nervous-system-response-and-how-to-stop-with-anita-sandoval-lpc-ep-555.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}