{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":270,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden, educational neuroscientist, advocate, and mother of three. This isn’t another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips.' It’s real stories, confessions we’re not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you’ll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from neuroscientists, clinicians, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads already tuning in from across the world, the podcast has already influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you’ve ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you’re the only one falling apart — this podcast is your proof that you’re not br…","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"98. When You Say ‘Can We Talk’ — And It Blows Up Straight Away","slug":"98-when-you-say-can-we-talk-and-it-blows-up-straight-away","published_at":"2026-04-15T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/98-when-you-say-can-we-talk-and-it-blows-up-straight-away","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/when-you-say-can-we-talk-and-it-blows-up-straight-away","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b52f7893-3dfa-4608-a288-1885f0213d25.mp3","summary":"If you’ve ever said ‘can we just talk about something?’ and it escalates before you’ve even said the thing — this episode is for you. Because it’s not the conversation that’s blowing up. It’s what happens in the seconds before it even starts . In this episode, we unpack that exact moment — the one where you’re trying to keep it calm, keep it small, keep it ‘not a big deal’… and somehow it still turns into tension, shutdown, or a full spiral. The urgency you feel to resolve it. The resistance you feel coming back. And how quickly that turns into ‘why do I make things like this?’ 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: Why ‘can we talk?’ can trigger a reaction before anything is said What’s actually happening when one person moves in and the other pulls away The demand-withdraw pattern (and why it escalates so fast) Why urgency to resolve something doesn’t land as ‘small’ to the other person How unfinished conversations sit in your body all day Why it feels impossible to just ‘leave it’ What happens when both people are trying to regulate — in opposite ways How effort builds with zero progress (and why that feels so heavy) Why this quickly turns into ‘I’m too much’ or ‘I make things hard’ The difference between a communication problem… and a timing collision 💭 This episode is for you if: You feel a strong need to resolve things straight away You struggle to leave conversations unfinished You’ve been told ‘not right now’ and felt it land hard You replay conversations that never even really happened You feel responsible for fixing the tension in relationships You’ve thought ‘why do I make things escalate?’ 🎁 Free Resource ADHD Self-Test https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-self-test/ If you’ve ever wondered ‘why does this feel so intense for me?’ this is a helpful place to start. 🎧 Relat…","meta_description":"If you’ve ever said ‘can we just talk about something?’ and it escalates before you’ve even said the thing — this episode is for you. Because it’s not the…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":546,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-mums-6363089/episodes/98-when-you-say-can-we-talk-and-it-blows-up-straight-away/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/98-when-you-say-can-we-talk-and-it-blows-up-straight-away.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}