{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":270,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden, educational neuroscientist, advocate, and mother of three. This isn’t another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips.' It’s real stories, confessions we’re not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you’ll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from neuroscientists, clinicians, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads already tuning in from across the world, the podcast has already influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you’ve ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you’re the only one falling apart — this podcast is your proof that you’re not br…","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"95. When You Make Yourself the Joke — And It Turns Into ‘That’s Just Who I Am’","slug":"95-when-you-make-yourself-the-joke-and-it-turns-into-that-s-just-who-i-am","published_at":"2026-04-01T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/95-when-you-make-yourself-the-joke-and-it-turns-into-that-s-just-who-i-am","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/when-you-make-yourself-the-joke-and-it-turns-into-thats-just-who-i-am","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/c40aed97-1ddc-438c-a569-1c8b9ee2f8fa.mp3","summary":"In this episode, we unpack the very real (and very common) experience of showing up already stretched… masking it with humour… and then internalising the entire thing as a personality flaw. The jokes land. People laugh. It looks like you’re coping. But underneath it — something else is happening. 🧠 What We Cover in This Episode: What’s actually happening when you default to self-deprecating humour Why ‘being funny about it’ can be a form of real-time regulation How overwhelm gets rewritten as ‘this is just who I am’ The hidden role of impression management in social situations Why you leave interactions replaying everything you said What ‘cognitive downplaying’ looks like in everyday life How overcommitment + pressure turns into identity, not context Why nothing changes when you minimise what’s actually too much The moment it shifts from ‘this doesn’t work for me’ to ‘I am the problem’ What it looks like to move the pressure off you — and back onto the situation 💭 This episode is for you if: You make jokes when you’re actually overwhelmed You leave social situations thinking ‘I did it again’ You overcommit, then feel trapped in it You replay what you said and cringe later You’ve labelled yourself as ‘too much’, ‘chaotic’, or ‘bad at follow-through’ You feel like you have to manage how others see you 🎁 Free Resource ADHD Self-Test https://adhdmums.com.au/adhd-self-test/ If you’ve ever thought ‘is this just my personality… or something else?’ this is a helpful place to start. 🎧 Related Episodes No, I Can’t Meditate. I’m Too Busy Dissociating https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-47-quick-reset-no-i-cant-meditate-im-too-busy-disassociating/ Why You’re Bad at Asking for Help and What to Do Instead https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-18-quick-reset-why…","meta_description":"In this episode, we unpack the very real (and very common) experience of showing up already stretched… masking it with humour… and then internalising the…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":667,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-mums-6363089/episodes/95-when-you-make-yourself-the-joke-and-it-turns-into-that-s-just-who-i-am/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/95-when-you-make-yourself-the-joke-and-it-turns-into-that-s-just-who-i-am.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}