{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":270,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden, educational neuroscientist, advocate, and mother of three. This isn’t another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips.' It’s real stories, confessions we’re not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you’ll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from neuroscientists, clinicians, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads already tuning in from across the world, the podcast has already influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you’ve ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you’re the only one falling apart — this podcast is your proof that you’re not br…","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"83. When ADHD Becomes the Reason You Stop Trying...","slug":"83-when-adhd-becomes-the-reason-you-stop-trying","published_at":"2026-02-18T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/83-when-adhd-becomes-the-reason-you-stop-trying","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/when-adhd-becomes-the-reason-you-stop-trying-","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/640349bc-a552-4d03-8b1f-5d9fe46a7b91.mp3","summary":"You’re not lying on the couch saying ‘poor me.’ You’re functioning. Packing lunches. Showing up. Holding it together. But quietly, inside, you’ve started believing: ‘This is just how it is for me.’ WHY THIS MATTERS ADHD mums carry more correction, more visible mistakes, more invisible labour, more system friction. So when something goes wrong, it doesn’t land as ‘that was hard.’ It lands as proof. Proof you’re behind. Proof you’re failing. Proof this is who you are. And once shame becomes the explanation, your brain stops looking for options. Not because you don’t want change. Because the load is already too high. WHAT WE COVER The difference between a victim moment and a victim identity Why ADHD conditioning makes shame feel factual How ‘nothing works in our house anyway’ protects you from hope The motherhood shame loop that quietly shrinks your life Why waiting for fairness before you move will keep costing you Responsibility without blame — and why that matters The one question that reopens possibility without forcing action THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF… You’ve stopped trying in one area because failing again feels unbearable You feel resentful but also guilty for feeling resentful You avoid things before they even go wrong You tell yourself you’re ‘just bad at this stage’ Being validated feels relieving… but nothing changes afterwards RELATED ADHD MUMS EPISODES 🎧 Hidden Cost of Being The Good Girl https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/goodgirlcost/ 🎧 When You Can’t Relax Even When It’s Quiet https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/why-adhd-mums-cant-relax/ 🎧 The ADHD Myth of ‘Just Try Harder’ (Quick Reset) https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-24-quick-reset-the-adhd-myth-of-just-try-harder/ 📬 Listener Questions & Community 🎙️ Ask a Listener Question…","meta_description":"You’re not lying on the couch saying ‘poor me.’ You’re functioning. Packing lunches. Showing up. Holding it together. But quietly, inside, you’ve started…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":817,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-mums-6363089/episodes/83-when-adhd-becomes-the-reason-you-stop-trying/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/83-when-adhd-becomes-the-reason-you-stop-trying.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}