{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":270,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden, educational neuroscientist, advocate, and mother of three. This isn’t another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips.' It’s real stories, confessions we’re not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you’ll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from neuroscientists, clinicians, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads already tuning in from across the world, the podcast has already influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you’ve ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you’re the only one falling apart — this podcast is your proof that you’re not br…","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"81. The Hidden Cost of Being the 'Good Girl' — How the Mental Load Became Ours","slug":"81-the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours","published_at":"2026-02-11T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/81-the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/6655e700-0a4f-4919-9fb1-59c2e7453dcf.mp3","summary":"This episode is for ADHD mums who have ever sat in a car park before an assessment and felt their whole nervous system start negotiating with the evidence. Because the paperwork looks fine. The report cards look fine. Your life looks fine. And you’re standing there knowing that ‘fine’ is exactly what disqualifies you. This is the ADHD myth as it actually lands. Not as a hot take online — but as a private internal audit that starts the second you consider asking for help. It’s the voice that says: ‘Everyone says they have ADHD now, don’t they?’ And the way your body believes it before you even get to answer back. WHAT WE COVER – The ‘good school report’ trap and why it makes women doubt themselves – Why visible competence is often just quiet compensation – How anxiety, eating disorders, burnout and depression get missed when you’re not disruptive – The internal investigation ADHD mums run before they ever ask for help – Why ‘you’ve managed this long’ lands as dismissal, not reassurance – How vigilance gets trained in childhood and then masquerades as personality – Why gender shifts the cost of impulsivity, mistakes, and social timing – How hypervigilance becomes the price of belonging – Why motherhood doesn’t create the load, it exposes it – The difference between being tired and constantly compensating – How media narratives about ADHD being a ‘trend’ reinforce silence and shame THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF… – you have ‘good’ school reports and still feel like you’re drowning – you rehearse what to say before appointments so you don’t sound ‘dramatic’ – you minimise automatically and tell yourself other people have it worse – you’ve been called controlling when you’re actually doing risk management – you feel embarrassed even seeking an assessment – you relate to being ‘…","meta_description":"This episode is for ADHD mums who have ever sat in a car park before an assessment and felt their whole nervous system start negotiating with the evidence…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1677,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-mums-6363089/episodes/81-the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/81-the-hidden-cost-of-being-the-good-girl-how-the-mental-load-became-ours.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}