{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":307,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids — is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden — an Autistic and ADHD mum with a Master's in Neuroscience and Psychology and certification as an ADHD and Autism assessor. This isn't another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips'. It's real stories, confessions we're not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you'll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from clinicians, researchers, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads from around the world, the podcast has influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you've ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you're the only one falling apart — this podc…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-17T06:22:15.189015+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"23. ADHD and Marriage: We Separated for 18 Months. Then He Got Diagnosed. (with Emily Jade O'Keeffe)","slug":"23-adhd-and-marriage-we-separated-for-18-months-then-he-got-diagnosed-with-emily-jade-o-keeffe","published_at":"2026-08-10T17:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/23-adhd-and-marriage-we-separated-for-18-months-then-he-got-diagnosed-with-emily-jade-o-keeffe","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/husband-adhd-diagnosis-saved-marriage","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b03dd5ea-e10d-4c35-92af-a1cf4f9da2cc.mp3","summary":"In the Facebook group there's a pattern that comes up again and again: the mum grows. She gets the kids assessed, she starts to recognise herself, she does the reading and the therapy and the work — and the husband lags behind. He won't consider that he's neurodivergent, or the problem is always someone else. The kids. The school. Her. And underneath it all is the question so many women are actually asking: how do I get him to see it, and is it even worth staying? Emily Jade O'Keeffe's story runs the whole thing backwards. Her husband got diagnosed first — but only after they'd separated for 18 months, after the mudslinging and the lawyers, after she'd rebuilt herself from the floor up. This is the rare positive one: what happened when the diagnosis finally came, why she chose to help him when almost nobody would have, and the single question a marriage counsellor gave her that changed everything — 'is it arsehole or ADHD?' CHAPTERS 00:00 — Meet Emily Jade O'Keeffe — 30 years in radio, and why she drove up from the Gold Coast 02:46 — The order most families discover it in — and why Emily's ran backwards 03:46 — 18 months apart: 'I was devastated, and he said can you just get over it' 06:07 — Rock bottom, and the call that started with 'you were right' 08:17 — 'I removed myself from the marriage and the problem was still there' 09:17 — The groceries, the tone, and the pressure that was never actually there 10:15 — PDA — a name for the thing Emily had been living without knowing 13:00 — The first six months: lawyers, mudslinging, and the awakening that stopped it 16:50 — 'I'll dance with my daughter's dad at her wedding' — the line that set the path 20:00 — 'I can't be the problem again' — why she wouldn't just take him back 23:30 — 'Is it arsehole or ADHD?' — the counse…","meta_description":"In the Facebook group there's a pattern that comes up again and again: the mum grows. 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