{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":307,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids — is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden — an Autistic and ADHD mum with a Master's in Neuroscience and Psychology and certification as an ADHD and Autism assessor. This isn't another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips'. It's real stories, confessions we're not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you'll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from clinicians, researchers, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads from around the world, the podcast has influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you've ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you're the only one falling apart — this podc…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-17T06:22:15.189015+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"22. Mental Load: 'I'm Just Tired of Being the Only Adult.' 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It's the sentence that comes out of your mouth before you can stop it: 'would you mind having the kids on Saturday so I can get a haircut' — asking the other parent for their own children like you're lodging annual leave with HR. It's 'they were so good while you were gone,' and knowing 'good' meant nobody got fed. It's being so tired of being the only adult in the building that you stop being angry and just go quiet. This is Part 3, the last in the series, and it's the heavy one. It begins with a laugh and then it lets that laugh go. This one is for you, on your own, with your headphones in — and if you're right on the edge of exasperation today, Jane's honest recommendation is that you save this one for another day. Built entirely from what you wrote in. Support links are in the notes below. CHAPTERS 00:00 — The last one. It starts funny, then it doesn't. 00:44 — 'I shouldn't have to book my own kids in like it's annual leave' 01:37 — Watch where the school emails go — and the 11-day anaphylaxis email 03:37 — 'It was so easy while you were gone.' Was it though? 05:41 — The 7am text from Cassie, and what Jane wrote back without thinking 07:32 — 'I'm not even angry anymore. I'm just so tired of being the only adult.' 07:46 — The nine-year-old asked to regulate himself while the 39-year-old isn't 11:33 — The question underneath all of it: are these women still with them? 12:37 — 'Supportive of what?' — when the pat on the back keeps you carrying it 14:39 — The economy of gratitude — his effort is a gift, yours is the weather 15:03 — 'He's cheaper than hiring someone' — the accounting that holds women in place 16:58…","meta_description":"The mental load starts as the thing you can laugh about — the admin, the medal for mowing the lawn. 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