{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":307,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids — is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden — an Autistic and ADHD mum with a Master's in Neuroscience and Psychology and certification as an ADHD and Autism assessor. This isn't another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips'. It's real stories, confessions we're not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you'll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from clinicians, researchers, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads from around the world, the podcast has influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you've ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you're the only one falling apart — this podc…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-17T06:22:15.189015+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"20. Mental Load: He Mowed the Lawn Once and Wanted to Know If You Saw It.","slug":"20-mental-load-he-mowed-the-lawn-once-and-wanted-to-know-if-you-saw-it","published_at":"2026-07-29T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/20-mental-load-he-mowed-the-lawn-once-and-wanted-to-know-if-you-saw-it","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/mental-load-he-mowed-the-lawn-once-and-wanted-to-know-if-you-saw-it-","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/e31d5876-e314-4954-8da1-68f762dee6d2.mp3","summary":"The mental load is not the doing. Everyone thinks it's the doing. It's the buy now, pay later maths you run when your partner tells you to rest — the hour you lie down and spend the whole hour calculating what this hour is costing you tomorrow. It's being the default parent, the one whose invisible labour only gets noticed the second it stops. And then, into that, walks the one who did the single most visible job in the house and needs you to see it. He mowed the lawn. He unpacked the dishwasher. Once. And he's standing in the middle of the kitchen, glowing, waiting for the medal. CHAPTERS 00:00 — 'You rest, take a load off' — and why every woman's shoulders just went up 01:35 — Buy now, pay later: what an hour of rest actually costs you 02:39 — Dani, patron saint of this episode, and her four voice memos 03:19 — Kat's dishwasher, the border collie, and the dead bird at your feet 04:06 — 'Did you see the lawn?' The line that named the whole episode 06:37 — The barbecue vasectomy story (you'll want to sit down) 08:31 — The 3am texts, where it stops being funny — the wet bed, his one turn 09:42 — 'I'm stressed about the mess. What are you going to do about it?' 11:04 — The head lice question that broke everyone: 'or did you just decide that?' 12:15 — Why is it always her? Susan Walzer, 1996, and thinking vs doing 12:38 — He doesn't just do less. He's reading a different ledger. 13:33 — Why this isn't gaslighting — and why that makes it harder to fix 15:31 — What doesn't work: the chart, the PowerPoint, the tagging him in articles 15:50 — What actually works: handing over whole domains, not tasks 17:20 — How same-sex couples split it, and why they had to do it out loud 19:55 — 'You're a bit of a perfectionist' — what he actually means when he says it What We Cover Why 'yo…","meta_description":"The mental load is not the doing. Everyone thinks it's the doing. It's the buy now, pay later maths you run when your partner tells you to rest — the hour…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":1445,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/adhd-mums-6363089/episodes/20-mental-load-he-mowed-the-lawn-once-and-wanted-to-know-if-you-saw-it/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/20-mental-load-he-mowed-the-lawn-once-and-wanted-to-know-if-you-saw-it.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}