{"podcast":{"title":"ADHD Mums","slug":"adhd-mums-6363089","podcast_index_feed_id":6363089,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/adhdmums/","website_url":"https://www.adhdmums.com.au/","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/36034d34-12a3-48c5-b350-38b0ca05e100/image.jpg","author":"Jane McFadden","episode_count":307,"summary":"Being a mum is hard enough. Being a mum with ADHD — or raising neurodivergent kids — is a whole different level. ADHD Mums is the unfiltered, science-meets-reality podcast hosted by Jane McFadden — an Autistic and ADHD mum with a Master's in Neuroscience and Psychology and certification as an ADHD and Autism assessor. This isn't another polished parenting show with 'ten easy tips'. It's real stories, confessions we're not supposed to say out loud, and the research that explains why so many of us are running on empty. Every week you'll hear: 🎙️ Confessions — raw, anonymous truths from mums navigating rage, burnout, and survival. 🧠 Expert insights — from clinicians, researchers, and policy leaders on ADHD, autism, and mental health. 💬 Advocacy in action — exposing ADHD medication shortages, NDIS red tape, and the hidden costs mothers carry. With over 1 million downloads from around the world, the podcast has influenced ADHD reforms in Australia, been featured in national media, and pushed politicians to answer the questions mothers are asking. If you've ever screamed in the car, forgotten every form until the night before, or wondered if you're the only one falling apart — this podc…","last_synced_at":"2026-09-17T06:22:15.189015+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089"},"episode":{"title":"17. Good Girl Conditioning: Breaking the Pattern Before It Reaches Our Daughters — with Rachel Seiler","slug":"17-good-girl-conditioning-breaking-the-pattern-before-it-reaches-our-daughters-with-rachel-seiler","published_at":"2026-07-20T19:00:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089/17-good-girl-conditioning-breaking-the-pattern-before-it-reaches-our-daughters-with-rachel-seiler","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/adhd-mums-6363089","url":"https://adhdmums.com.au/captivate/good-girl-conditioning-what-were-training-into-our-daughters-","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/49cd796c-4d6d-48dd-922e-54a6cf568376.mp3","summary":"You know good girl conditioning because you've lived it. The self-editing. The 'whatever you want.' The 'I don't mind.' You spent your twenties in the wrong careers and your thirties in therapy, and you're still catching yourself doing it in your forties. And now you're watching your neurodivergent daughter start — the compliant one, the helpful one — and you don't know how to name it, let alone stop it. CHAPTERS 00:00 — What the good girl actually loses (and nobody in the room notices) 02:16 — Interoception: the missing piece for a whole generation of mums 03:52 — Why you picked the worst careers and environments for you 06:35 — The nervous system cost nobody counts — going to the toilet on a bell 09:50 — The moment you edited yourself out before anyone even noticed 10:47 — Rachel's grade one birthday party, and what her mum saw 12:32 — The mum rage that arrived when it was her daughter's turn 15:14 — The four scripts that work better than any book or worksheet 19:17 — What we're actually reinforcing when we praise 'easy' behaviour 19:52 — The girls who look calm in the front row and panic on the inside 22:00 — The pool. The water slide. The moment Jane couldn't watch it anymore 28:03 — 'I don't mind' — the one thing every mum needs to understand about it What We Cover The one thing every good girl loses first, and it's not confidence — it's the ability to feel what's happening inside her own body Why you picked the worst possible jobs, cities and relationships in your twenties, and never once asked yourself the question that would have saved you What Rachel's mum watched her do at her own sixth birthday party — and the template it set for the next thirty years The moment Rachel had to physically walk out of her own daughter's bedroom before she said something she cou…","meta_description":"You know good girl conditioning because you've lived it. The self-editing. The 'whatever you want.' The 'I don't mind.' 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