{"podcast":{"title":"40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.","slug":"40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616","podcast_index_feed_id":912616,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/fortyplus/","website_url":"https://rickclemons.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4ad7a7a6-b0f8-4cca-8d2b-3dd33fbcedc3/P6JHFhYg6teBJviuvlKAJHwo.jpg","author":"Rick Clemons","episode_count":300,"summary":"Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!","last_synced_at":"2026-07-10T20:20:08.590521+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616"},"episode":{"title":"Stop Swiping, Start Connecting: Court Vox on Attraction, Intimacy, and What Gay Men Over 40 Get Wrong About Desire","slug":"stop-swiping-start-connecting-court-vox-on-attraction-intimacy-and-what-gay-men-over-40-get-wrong-about-desire","published_at":"2026-07-03T10:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616/stop-swiping-start-connecting-court-vox-on-attraction-intimacy-and-what-gay-men-over-40-get-wrong-about-desire","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616","url":"https://rickclemons.com/40-gay-men-gay-talk/388-court-vox","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/f1e21d64-1112-46ac-83df-9cd460920530.mp3","summary":"Gay men over 40 know how to find sex. What most of them have never been taught is how to find connection. Court Vox is a certified sex and intimacy coach, founder of The Bodyvox, and one of the sharpest voices working with GBTQ men on what actually gets in the way of real intimacy. He joins Rick to talk about choice fatigue on dating apps, the ruptures that quietly kill relationships before they start, and why so much of what gay men call attraction is really just unexamined shame running the show. This is the conversation about desire that most men are not ready to have. Key Takeaways: How app culture creates choice fatigue that makes genuine connection harder Why rupture and repair skills are the most underrated tools in any relationship How to tell the difference between facts and feelings when conflict hits The role homophobia and internalized misogyny play in gay men's attraction patterns Why resistance to certain desires is almost always repression in disguise What somatic coaching does that talk therapy alone cannot About Court Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, based in Los Angeles CA . He is Founder of The Bodyvox. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private immersions, clients cultivate toys to unlock limitations and shame, to embrace a deeper sense of intimacy with their whole self. Traditional forms of therapy are done solely through talk, while the work of a somatic coach is to further this form of work via body-based exercises, experiential learning, and touch, in comfortable, judgment-free, and caring environments. Body acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are some of the many reasons clients seek this form of learning. Vox is a sex educa…","meta_description":"Gay men over 40 know how to find sex. What most of them have never been taught is how to find connection. 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