{"podcast":{"title":"40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.","slug":"40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616","podcast_index_feed_id":912616,"rss_url":"https://feeds.captivate.fm/fortyplus/","website_url":"https://rickclemons.com","image_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4ad7a7a6-b0f8-4cca-8d2b-3dd33fbcedc3/P6JHFhYg6teBJviuvlKAJHwo.jpg","author":"Rick Clemons","episode_count":300,"summary":"Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!","last_synced_at":null,"page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616"},"episode":{"title":"Mike Elliott Says the Thing No Man Wants to Hear: Your Relationships Are a Mirror of You","slug":"mike-elliott-says-the-thing-no-man-wants-to-hear-your-relationships-are-a-mirror-of-you","published_at":"2026-04-03T10:30:00+00:00","page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616/mike-elliott-says-the-thing-no-man-wants-to-hear-your-relationships-are-a-mirror-of-you","show_page_url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616","url":"https://rickclemons.com/40-gay-men-gay-talk/375-mike-elliott","audio_url":"https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/f5a1a013-4fa9-4aa7-a6c3-f8cf6e3ecea9.mp3","summary":"Most men spend years trying to fix their relationships by fixing the other person. Mike Elliott, LGBTQ+ ally, tried that too. It cost him his marriage. The Relational Leadership Mentor and Men's Initiation Guide rebuilt his entire life after divorce by doing the one thing men are trained to avoid: looking directly at themselves. Through a three-part framework of initiation, integration, and inspiration, Mike now guides men who are done sleepwalking through their relationships and ready to lead from something real. Mike and Rick get raw about what it actually takes to stop being reactive, take radical self-responsibility, and build a life anchored in presence instead of performance. Key Takeaways: Why self-improvement content often makes men feel more lost not less What initiation actually means and why every gay man over 40 has already been through one How your deepest wound becomes your most powerful tool for connection The difference between integration and just surviving what happened to you Why radical self-responsibility is not self-blame but the only real path forward About Mike Mike is a Relational Leadership Mentor and Men's Initiation Guide, working with men who want to have it all. He guides them to lead with Relational Authority, anchored in initiation, integration, and inspiration. Having been adopted twice and walked through the dark night of divorce, he rebuilt his life from the inside out. Now cohost of \"The Sacred We,\" he helps men transform their relationships, starting with themselves, and create legacies of love, presence and purpose. Connect With Mike Website Instagram Hey Guys, Don't Forget! Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community","meta_description":"Most men spend years trying to fix their relationships by fixing the other person. Mike Elliott, LGBTQ+ ally, tried that too. It cost him his marriage. Th…","key_points":[],"chapters":[],"topics":[],"duration_seconds":3057,"processing_state":"not_requested","actions":[{"name":"request_transcript","method":"POST","url":"https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616/episodes/mike-elliott-says-the-thing-no-man-wants-to-hear-your-relationships-are-a-mirror-of-you/transcription-requests","description":"Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode."},{"name":"read_markdown","method":"GET","url":"https://stenobird.com/podcast/40-plus-gay-men-gay-talk-912616/mike-elliott-says-the-thing-no-man-wants-to-hear-your-relationships-are-a-mirror-of-you.md","description":"Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource."}]}}