# It's IMPOSSIBLE to Be 'Ex-Gay' — Here's Why

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Podcast: [You Can Be Both](https://stenobird.com/podcast/you-can-be-both-7576307)
Published: 2026-04-26T15:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Here's why "ex-gay" stories are misleading — and why you don't need to change. I'm breaking down why it's impossible to be ex-gay and why these stories you see online are often rooted in trauma, bad behavior, or bisexuality/pansexuality— not actual sexual orientation change. What we're covering: Why trauma gets mistaken for sexual orientation How people confuse bad behavior with being gay The truth about bisexuality/pansexuality and "ex-gay" testimonies Why the algorithm is feeding you these stories The bottom line: You don't need to change. God loves you exactly as you are. Conversion therapy doesn't work, never has, and never will. Organizations like Exodus International have already admitted this and apologized for the harm they caused. If you're struggling with your identity, feeling pressured to change, or wondering why God hasn't "fixed" you — this episode is for you. 📩 NEED SUPPORT? Download my FREE LGBTQ+ Healing & Resource Guide — it includes my full testimony, books, podcasts, and resources that helped me become confident in who I am and rooted in my relationship with God: https://www.laurenlanzaretta.com/youcanbeboth 🎵 MY MUSIC: I process my story through songwriting. Listen on Spotify, Apple Music, or YouTube: Search: Lauren Lanzaretta 📱 CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: @Lanzaretta TikTok: @Lanzaretta Email: youcanbebothpodcast@gmail.com MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 🎬 Pray Away (Netflix documentary about Exodus International) You are loved. You are seen. You are worthy. And you can be both gay and Christian. #GayChristian #ExGay #LGBTQChurch #ConversionTherapy #YouCanBeBoth #GayAndChristian #ChristianLGBTQ #PrayAwayTheGay #LGBTQFaith #QueerChristian #AffirmingTheology #ExodusInternational #LGBTQHealing

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