# 19. How To Speak Up at Work Without Losing Your Nerve

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Podcast: [Workplace Therapy with Dr. Abby Medcalf](https://stenobird.com/podcast/workplace-therapy-with-dr-abby-medcalf-7529602)
Published: 2026-03-05T00:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-advocate-for-yourself-when-you-hate-conflict
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Duration seconds: 884

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