# Why I Hate New Year’s Resolutions (And What I Do Instead)

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Podcast: [Wonder In The Weeds](https://stenobird.com/podcast/wonder-in-the-weeds-6683721)
Published: 2025-12-31T07:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://critzking.substack.com/p/why-i-hate-new-years-resolutions-405
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## Resource

If you are about to buy a new planner or sign up for a gym membership because you feel like you need to "fix" yourself, press pause. In this episode, I explain why the commercialized version of New Year’s resolutions is often just a trap designed to make you feel like you aren't good enough. I spent years (and thousands of dollars) trying to organize and plan my way into being a "better" person, but it never led to lasting happiness. Today, I’m sharing the alternative that actually works: a "More of/Less of" audit inspired by a financial strategy from my friend Brittany Ross. We also discuss why you cannot "curate" joy but must intentionally look for it, and I share a personal story about a 24-hour hotel stay with high school friends that taught me why you shouldn't try to manufacture deep connections. In this episode: The Resolution Trap: Why the pressure to "change" is often a sales tactic. The "More of/Less of" List: A simple method to audit your life based on feelings, not productivity. Body Intelligence: How to use the "chest tap" to identify what true motivation feels like physically. Friendship Reality: Why sitting in a hotel room with old friends beats an elaborate vacation with new ones. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro: Why I Hate New Year’s Resolutions 0:46 - The "Not Good Enough" Scam 02:14 - I Spent Thousands on Planners (And Failed) 07:52 - The "Finance Rule" That Fixed My Life (Brittany Ross) 11:37 - How To Audit Your Feelings (The Chest Tap) 14:40 - Why "Mindset Shifts" Are Often Oversimplified 18:34 - The Hotel Story: What True Friendship Looks Like 23:55 - How To Join The "Women of Wonder" Community Join the Community: The Women of Wonder community is where we leave the judgment at the door. If you want more laughter, less pressure, and a place to celebrate y…

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