# Throw Back Episode: Why We Ask For Love From People Who Aren't Able To or Don't Want to Give It To Us: When Codependency Makes Us Believe We're Unloveable Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417/throw-back-episode-why-we-ask-for-love-from-people-who-aren-t-able-to-or-don-t-want-to-give-it-to-us-when-codependency-makes-us-believe-we-re-unloveable Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417/throw-back-episode-why-we-ask-for-love-from-people-who-aren-t-able-to-or-don-t-want-to-give-it-to-us-when-codependency-makes-us-believe-we-re-unloveable.md Podcast: [Women Waken: Spiritual Healing for Trauma in Relationships to Shift from Codependency to Divine Feminine](https://stenobird.com/podcast/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417) Published: 2026-04-11T10:33:00+00:00 Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/3499bb71 Audio file: https://media.transistor.fm/3499bb71/9b958c46.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417/episodes/throw-back-episode-why-we-ask-for-love-from-people-who-aren-t-able-to-or-don-t-want-to-give-it-to-us-when-codependency-makes-us-believe-we-re-unloveable Duration seconds: 2522 ## Resource *(Helllllo Listeners! This episode was originally released in July 2023. I just finished an amazing 2 weeks in Hawaii and now I sail across the seas for my new adventure! I plan to record new episodes before too long yet I'm not sure when. I hope you'll hang in and continue to tune in!)* Too often it's the case that someone can receive 100 compliments yet choose instead to only focus on the one person who insulted them. The same can be seen frequently in dating and relationships. When a person we're seeing makes it clear through their actions, words, behavior, demeanor & beyond that they aren't willing to put in the effort for us or give us the love we are looking for. Yet we continue to take the minimal effort they are willing to give in hopes that it will eventually amount to a full blown loving connection. The reality is that 99% of the time it won't and we're better off moving on sooner than later so we can actually be available to the person who DOES want to love us. Codependency holds us back, believing that we need this person's approval and love to be worthy. On this Identify and Heal solo episode, I explore the phenomenon of seeking love from people who are either incapable of doing so or have no interest in giving love to us. Which, when experienced, can lead us to believe that there is something wrong with us and create a fear that maybe we are unloveable. The truth is that these are simply people who are not aligned with us and cannot truly see us for the amazing, Divine Feminine being that we are so why waste our time on them? I provide some insight and personal experience with this concept and how to avoid falling into this trap the next time around. Join the Women Waken Community on Instagram Here: https://tinyurl.com/522duz2c Feel free to reach out… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417/episodes/throw-back-episode-why-we-ask-for-love-from-people-who-aren-t-able-to-or-don-t-want-to-give-it-to-us-when-codependency-makes-us-believe-we-re-unloveable/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/women-waken-spiritual-healing-for-trauma-in-relationships-to-shift-from-codependency-to-divine-feminine-4078417/throw-back-episode-why-we-ask-for-love-from-people-who-aren-t-able-to-or-don-t-want-to-give-it-to-us-when-codependency-makes-us-believe-we-re-unloveable.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.