# A "Nice Guy" Isn't a Good Man (He's Secretly Manipulating You)

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Podcast: [Wellness + Wisdom Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/wellness-wisdom-podcast-1776)
Published: 2026-06-30T14:55:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wellnesswisdom-josh-trent/episodes/A-Nice-Guy-Isnt-a-Good-Man-Hes-Secretly-Manipulating-You-e3lahca
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## Resource

What is the difference between a nice guy and a good man? And why do women struggle in a relationship with nice guys? Josh Trent welcomes Kelvin Davis to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 823, to explore why performative niceness quietly poisons every relationship it touches, what it takes for a man to stop seeking approval and start leading from his values, and why the courage to tell the truth (even the ugliest parts) is the only thing that sets a man free. In This Episode, Kelvin Davis Uncovers: (01:07) The Hidden Self-Sabotage of Being a Nice Guy (06:00) Niceness as a Survival Strategy (09:26) The Single Most Important Question (13:52) The Buffalo and the Cow (17:44) When Criticism Is a Gift (20:57) What a Good Man Actually Is (25:00) "Happy Wife, Happy Life" Is Bullshit (32:00) Control VS Leadership (39:37) Teaching Black Boys to Become Good Men (47:40) Life Is Not Fair for Men... And That Is Not an Excuse (57:00) How a Nice Man Can Become a Good Man (01:03:10) The Courage to Tell the Truth (01:07:44) The Energy Has to Go Somewhere (01:13:34) Be Careful How You Pray (01:16:43) Feel Your Emotions Without Judgement (01:25:49) Embody Being a Good Man 👉 ⁠⁠⁠Get the full SHOW NOTES + resources HERE!⁠⁠ Josh's Trusted Products | Up To 40% Off Shop All Products Biohacking ⁠ WAVwatch - Now 15% off with JOSH100 Timeline Nutrition - Now 30% off with JOSH MANNA Vitality - Save 20% with code JOSH20 FjØRD Lux + Sport Cold Plunge - 10% off with code JOSH SaunaSpace - 10% off with discount code JOSH Neuronic - 20% off with code WISDOM Ultrahuman Ring PRO - 20% off with JOSH20 Wellness Test Kits Tiny Health Gut Tests - $20 off with discount code JOSH20 SiPhox Health Blood Test - Save 20% off with code WELLNESSANDWISDOM Focus + Be Present BRICK - 20% off with JOSH + r…

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