# 483. Coaching Hotline: Letting Go of Old Grudges & Beliefs About Attractiveness

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Podcast: [UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone](https://stenobird.com/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain-feminist-self-help-for-everyone-223312)
Published: 2026-04-14T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/letting-go-old-grudges-attractiveness/
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## Resource

Why is it so hard to let go of something that happened years ago, even when you know it shouldn’t matter anymore? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I coach someone through what it really takes to release an old grudge without pretending it didn’t hurt. Then I answer a question about attractiveness and the belief that you can control whether other people are attracted to you based on how you present yourself. If you’ve been holding onto resentment or trying to control how others see you, this episode will help you understand why those patterns aren’t working and learn how to shift out of them. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/483 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: Enroll now in Coach-Curious Prep School In this five-day incubator, you’ll learn whether coaching is the right career for you, what you need to do to prepare for a successful coaching career, and the next steps to take to begin – or expand – your life as a coach. It's happening on JUNE 22-26, 2026. Click here to register: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/curious Enroll now in Coach-Curious Prep School

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