# 475. Coaching Hotline: Feeling Defensive v Accepting Feedback & How to Know When You've Coached Yourself Correctly

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Podcast: [UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone](https://stenobird.com/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain-feminist-self-help-for-everyone-223312)
Published: 2026-03-17T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/defensive-accepting-feedback/
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## Resource

Does receiving feedback make you feel instantly defensive, embarrassed, or like you’ve done something terribly wrong? In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about how to handle criticism at work and how to know when you’ve coached yourself “correctly.” You’ll learn how to manage your mind around feedback, understand why feeling defensive is optional, and recognize that sometimes the answers you already have are the ones you need to keep practicing. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/475 Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/ Mentioned in this episode: FREE GUIDE: The Top Three Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming A Coach The world needs coaches. The world needs our work. The world needs your specific perspective, your experiences, your special sauce. Even if you don’t know that yet, I do. And I want to help you get there. Download this guide at https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threethings Click here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach

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