# "I Thought Providing Was Love"

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Podcast: [Unblock Your BS](https://stenobird.com/podcast/unblock-your-bs-7162348)
Published: 2026-06-10T07:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 3557

## Resource

Most men don't lose their relationship overnight. It happens slowly. Long work hours. Emotional avoidance. Constant stress. Feeling like roommates instead of partners. One person asking for connection while the other thinks, "I'm doing all of this for us… why isn't it enough?" In this episode, Marcus opens up about the collapse of his six-year relationship, discovering his partner was emotionally involved with someone else, and the spiral of shame, grief, panic, and self-blame that followed. But this conversation goes deeper than cheating or heartbreak. We unpack how childhood trauma, nervous system survival responses, overworking, emotional shutdown, conflict avoidance, and people-pleasing quietly shape adult relationships… especially for men who were never taught emotional regulation in the first place. Inside this episode: Why overworking is often emotional avoidance in disguise The difference between guilt and shame Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses in relationships Why some people move on quickly after relationships end How childhood abandonment wounds show up in adult intimacy Why many men outsource their self-worth to being chosen What emotional safety actually looks like in a relationship The hidden cost of living in survival mode for years How nervous system work and breathwork help process grief and emotional overwhelm This one is raw. Honest. Messy. Human. And if you've ever thought: "I know better… but I still keep reacting the same way." You'll probably see yourself somewhere in this conversation. If you're ready to stop living in survival mode and learn how to lead yourself differently in relationships, you can learn more about Healthy Men-tality here: JOIN MY FREE TRAINING HERE _____________________________________________________________________…

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