# The Dopamine Trap: Why Women Lose Themselves In Love

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Podcast: [The Upgrade Edit](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-upgrade-edit-6406311)
Published: 2026-06-14T05:41:55+00:00
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Why is it that some of the most intelligent, successful, self-aware women can find themselves completely distracted by a man? Why do we suddenly start checking our phones more often, replaying conversations in our heads, neglecting our routines, and feeling emotionally impacted by someone we've only known for a matter of weeks? In this episode of The Upgrade Edit, I'm diving into the fascinating neuroscience behind attraction, attachment, and self-abandonment. After spending almost three years celibate, I experienced some of the biggest growth of my life. My business expanded, my confidence deepened, my connection to myself strengthened, and I built a life that felt rich, purposeful, and aligned. Now that I'm dating again, I've found myself reflecting on a powerful question: Why do so many women lose themselves in love? Together, we'll explore the role dopamine plays in attraction, why your brain can mistake chemistry for compatibility, how attachment patterns influence dating behaviours, and why your nervous system is often seeking familiarity rather than what's actually best for you. This isn't an episode about becoming independent or avoiding relationships. It's about learning how to stay connected to yourself whilst allowing love into your life. Because the goal isn't to stop loving others. The goal is to stop abandoning yourself in the process. In this episode, we explore: • Why early-stage attraction can feel addictive • The role dopamine plays in dating and relationships • Why your brain is wired to seek connection • How attachment styles shape romantic patterns • The difference between chemistry and compatibility • Why healthy love can initially feel unfamiliar • How women are conditioned to prioritise others over themselves • The subtle signs of self-abandonme…

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