# Ep 53: The Compelling Invitation: How Leaders Get the Right People to the Table in the Right State with Lee Scott

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Podcast: [The Unleashing Leaders Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-unleashing-leaders-podcast-6405544)
Published: 2026-04-08T09:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 1369

## Resource

Every leader has conversations they're dreading, avoiding, or fumbling before they even begin. In this episode, Lee Scott unpacks one of the most underestimated tools in the leadership toolkit, the compelling invitation. Not the ambush, not the vague "can we talk?" text, and not the cold command to report to the conference room. The compelling invitation is the art and science of getting the right person to show up curious, safe, and ready to engage, before the real conversation even starts. Drawing on frameworks from "Crucial Conversations," Chris Voss's "Never Split the Difference", Edgar Schein's humble inquiry, and Judith Glaser's conversational intelligence, Lee walks through the anatomy of a compelling invitation, and why skipping it is almost always your worst option. Whether you're navigating a performance challenge, pitching an idea upward, asking for a raise, or addressing friction in a long-standing relationship, how you extend the invitation shapes everything that follows. Additional Resources: Attend Unleashing Leaders University! Sign up for our newsletter!: https://unleashingleadersuniversity.com/signup Learn more about Unleashing Leaders Follow Unleashing Leaders on LinkedIn Connect with Lee on LinkedIn Follow Unleashing Leaders on Facebook Follow Unleashing Leaders on Instagram Key Takeaways: Why avoidance and assault are the two failure modes on either side of a compelling invitation The wedding invitation framework: the overlooked parallel to how leaders should open conversations Tailoring your invitation to DISC styles and the six fundamental human needs Contrasting outcomes vs. positions: what you want, and what this conversation is not going to be Giving people a genuine choice, and why "no" being on the table is actually a sign the relationship i…

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