# 21: 6 Biggest Mistakes When Hiring a Divorce Attorney for a Custody Case

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Podcast: [The Ugly Truth of Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600)
Published: 2026-04-16T09:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://audioboom.com/posts/8890453
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Duration seconds: 1543

## Resource

You are out here letting a Facebook comment section pick the person who is supposed to fight for your kids and you do not even see the problem with that. This episode is one I needed to make because it is coming up constantly with my clients in real time. People are walking into attorney consultations completely unprepared, hiring the wrong person for all the wrong reasons, and then wondering why their case is falling apart. I have been there. Multiple wrong attorneys, years of my life, and more money than I want to think about. I am not letting you make the same mistakes I did. In this episode I break down the 6 biggest mistakes people make when hiring a divorce attorney for a custody case. We are talking about crowdsourcing your most important legal decision on social media, hiring your friend's attorney without doing any due diligence, picking someone who dabbles in family law instead of living it, only interviewing one attorney and calling it research, hiring a personality instead of a strategy, and waiting until you are already in full blown crisis mode before you hire anyone. Every single one of these mistakes has a cost and that cost usually shows up in your parenting time and your bank account. I also walk you through 3 of the 7 questions you need to bring into every single attorney consultation before you sign anything or hand over a retainer. The full list of 7 plus a detailed breakdown of every mistake is inside the newsletter. If you are not subscribed yet, fix that today. The attorney you hire is not your friend. They are not your therapist. They are the person standing between you and losing time with your kids. You need to walk into that consultation room prepared, clear on what you want, and ready to interview them just as hard as they are pitching you.…

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