# 17: You Cannot Do This Alone: How to Build Your Avengers as a Single Parent

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Podcast: [The Ugly Truth of Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600)
Published: 2026-04-02T09:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://audioboom.com/posts/8880314
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Duration seconds: 876

## Resource

If you are the most put-together person in your friend group, I need you to understand that is not a compliment, that is a warning. Let me ask you something and I need you to sit with it for a second. The people you are calling when everything blows up, are they actually helping you get through this, or are they just really entertaining to gossip with? Because I have been there. I had a whole circle. And every single one of them was either a yes man, a pot stirrer, or a straight up mole feeding information back to my ex. And I did not figure that out until the damage was already done in court. This episode is the one I wish somebody had handed me on day one of my divorce. We are talking about the hard audit. The one where you get honest about who is actually in your corner and who is just there for the show. Because not everyone who picks up the phone when you call is your person. Some of them are picking up because they are nosy. Some of them are picking up because your drama makes them feel better about their own life. And some of them are picking up and then turning around and telling your ex everything you just said. I also tried the other extreme. I pulled everybody out and went completely solo. Isolated. Just me, my kids, and my chaos. And I am telling you right now that was one of the most dangerous things I ever did to myself. Isolation is not strength. It is just suffering with better branding. The truth is you need people. Real ones. The kind who show up at your door before a court date with snacks and water and pictures of your kids and a whole plan for after. Not the kind who text you screenshots of what your ex posted on Instagram at 11pm. Those people are not your support system. They are your trigger system. And if right now you are sitting there saying…

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