# 15: Before You Move — Read This Part of Your Parenting Plan

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Podcast: [The Ugly Truth of Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600)
Published: 2026-03-26T09:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://audioboom.com/posts/8878982
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## Resource

Before you pack a single box, you need to read your relocation clause. Let me tell you what nobody tells you when you're sitting in that mediator's office, sleep deprived, emotionally destroyed, and just trying to get through it: you might be signing away your right to move. Not across the country. Across town. Into a cheaper place. Into a better school district. Into a house with someone who actually loves you. Your parenting plan can block all of it and nobody is going to stop you and say hey, read this part more carefully. You're going to find out when you're already packed. I've seen it happen over and over. A parent wants to move. Reasonable request. Normal life stuff. And then they actually read their parenting plan and realize they need their ex's permission. And if you've spent five minutes co-parenting with a high-conflict person you already know that permission is never coming. It doesn't matter how reasonable the request is. It doesn't matter if you're moving two miles away. The answer is no. It's always no. So congratulations, your ex now controls your zip code. That's what a badly written relocation clause does. And most of them are badly written. In this episode I get into all of it. Why picking one parent's house as the center point of a relocation radius is not a logistics decision, it's a control decision. Why I'd use a post office or a fixed landmark instead, something neutral that doesn't hand either parent a quiet advantage. How to pick a distance that actually holds up in real life, not in the best case scenario version of co-parenting where everyone is reasonable and nothing is hard. Because that version doesn't exist and you need to stop planning for it. I also want to talk about the parents who swear up and down they are never moving. I hear you…

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