# 11: Stop Fighting About Who Picks Up The Kids: The Transportation Clause You Actually Need

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Podcast: [The Ugly Truth of Divorce](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ugly-truth-of-divorce-7690600)
Published: 2026-03-12T09:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://audioboom.com/posts/8870948
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## Resource

Wanna know the one clause that's about to fuck up every single weekend? It's that bullshit line: "parents will agree on transportation." Spoiler: you won't agree on a goddamn thing with your narcissistic ex. Your attorney threw this vague garbage in so you'd keep calling them back. Now you're stuck sending 45 texts every Thursday arguing about where the hell the exchange even is. Here's what happens: Your ex shows up whenever they feel like it. Claims they didn't know where to go. Says YOU were supposed to drive. Meanwhile, you rearranged everything, and they just... don't show. Then somehow YOU look like the problem because nothing was written down. Gaslighting with a legal loophole. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly what needs to be in your transportation section. Who picks up. Who drops off. Exact addresses. Sick days. No school days. Summer. And whether your psycho ex gets to step onto your property or keeps their ass in the car. These details aren't overkill. This is war strategy. Your ex doesn't want convenience—they want control. Access to your life. To see who you're dating, what's in your driveway. You need to cut off their supply. Let's close this fucking loop. Let's build a transportation clause that actually works. Here’s What You Can Actually Take Away: Vague Transportation Clauses Create Weekly Wars - When your parenting plan says "parents will agree," you'll spend every exchange arguing about who picks up, who drops off, and where it happens. I Plan for Three Exception Scenarios - Sick kids, no-school days, and summer break all eliminate school as an exchange point, so I make sure plans have alternatives for each. I Specify Exchange Locations and Conduct - In high conflict cases, I include where exchanges happen, whether parents stay in vehicles…

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