# What I've Learned After 35 Years Without My Mom

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Podcast: [The Tamsen Show](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-tamsen-show-7240853)
Published: 2026-05-04T07:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

Mother's Day is not a simple day for everyone. If your mom is gone, or if your relationship with her is painful, complicated, or nonexistent, the world can make you feel incredibly alone in the middle of all of it. Like everyone else got something you didn't. Tamsen lost her mom at 20 years old. She has spent the last 35 years doing everything without her… her first job, her first apartment, her wedding, her divorce, finding Ira, writing a book, going through menopause without her mom's roadmap. In this honest and personal episode, Tamsen shares what she has actually learned after 35 years of carrying grief, including what she wishes someone had told her sooner. You'll hear: - Why grief doesn't move in a straight line and what to do when a wave hits you out of nowhere - The difference between moving on and moving forward and why it changes everything - What neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki said about grief that Tamsen thought about all weekend after she said it - The three essential elements of maternal love from Kelly McDaniel's book Mother Hunger and where to find them if you didn't get them - What to actually do this weekend if you're struggling You don't have to perform on Sunday, you don't have to explain your grief to anyone, you don't have to be okay, and you don't have to not be okay either. You just have to know you're not alone. If you liked this episode, you'll love Healing the Grief, the Love, and the Silence Around Your Mother Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Tams…

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