# Healthy Initiation vs. Hidden Games (Sex and the Dismissive Wife Podcast Series)

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Podcast: [The Secure Husband](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-secure-husband-7258341)
Published: 2026-07-09T05:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://share.transistor.fm/s/69347f09
Audio file: https://media.transistor.fm/69347f09/1653ad42.mp3
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## Resource

Should you confidently initiate intimacy, or should you stop initiating to see if your wife ever pursues you? In this episode, I explain why those are two completely different things. A secure husband asks honestly for what he wants and accepts the answer. An anxious husband often creates a silent test, hoping his wife will somehow know the rules. That hidden game creates confusion, resentment, and unnecessary pain. We'll talk about the difference between healthy communication and covert contracts, why avoiding rejection keeps many men stuck, and why reality is always better than assumptions. You'll also learn the difference between gathering real data through honest communication and creating a secret experiment that your wife doesn't even know she's part of. This shift can change the way you think about intimacy, pursuit, and self-respect in your marriage. If this episode sounds like your story, I'd love to invite you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. It's simply a conversation about what's happening in your marriage and how coaching might work for you. No sales pitch, no pressure, just a chance to see if it's a good fit and how I can help. #MarriageHelp #DeadBedroom #HealthyRelationships #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com. #sexlessmarriage #MarriageHelp #DeadBedroom #HealthyRelationships #AttachmentStyles #RelationshipAdvice All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social…

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