# 207: Hot and Cold in Love And Breakups: The Real Reason Why

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Podcast: [The Sabrina Zohar Show](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-sabrina-zohar-show-5994471)
Published: 2026-06-05T07:01:00+00:00
Episode link: https://pdst.fm/e/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.megaphone.fm/NSR2268577277.mp3
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Duration seconds: 2031

## Resource

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