# Is It You or Is It Them? How to Know When You’re the Problem

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Podcast: [The Rundown with Ramon - small business growth podcast for entrepreneurs](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-rundown-with-ramon-small-business-growth-podcast-for-entrepreneurs-6584308)
Published: 2026-06-22T12:32:37+00:00
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## Resource

In this episode of The Rundown with Ramon Show, Ramon Ray explores one of the toughest questions in relationships, business, leadership, and life: when conflict happens, how do you know whether the issue is you, them, or a little of both? Ramon shares practical ways to examine recurring patterns, receive feedback without becoming defensive, set reasonable boundaries, and seek input from people you trust. He also discusses showing up professionally through your LinkedIn profile, personal brand, speaking style, and even your business email address. Key takeaways: Look for repeated patterns: when the same issue comes up with different people, it may be time for honest self-reflection. Ask for specific evidence and examples instead of reacting only to feelings or assumptions. Learn to own your part without accepting blame for everything. Healthy feedback comes from people who want the best for you and can explain concerns clearly. You do not need to become someone else to improve; be yourself while staying open to growth.

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