# How to Tame Your Advice Monster and Become a Better Listener | Michael Bungay Stanier

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Podcast: [The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-one-you-feed-personal-growth-emotional-resilience-purpose-745331)
Published: 2026-06-05T14:00:00+00:00
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## Resource

In this episode, Michael Bungay Stanier, author of the bestselling The Coaching Habit, discusses how to tame your advice monster and become a better listener. Michael shares the surprising story of self-publishing after multiple rejections, and discusses core coaching principles like staying curious longer and asking better questions. He explores paradoxes in coaching, including balancing humility with confidence and being both fierce and loving. Michael also reflects on personal growth, integrating one’s shadow side, and maintaining perspective after achieving extraordinary success. ⁠A Weekly Bite of Wisdom:⁠ Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, Eric shares a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You'll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist featuring a recap of the week's episodes. It's free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/newsletter.⁠ Exciting News!!! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is out NOW! Order today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: The 10th anniversary of “The Coaching Habit” and its journey from rejection to self-publishing. The philosophy of coaching and the importance of asking good questions. The concept of taming the “advice monster” and the value of staying curious. The paradoxes in coaching, such as balancing confidence with humility. The significance of recognizing and integrating one’s shadow side. The role of presence and deep listening in effective coaching. The importance of being fierce and loving in relationships. The challenges of personal growth and the in…

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