# Building Safer Paths to Friendship and Dating for Autistic Adults

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Podcast: [The Neurodivergent Connection / The Curious Storyteller](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-neurodivergent-connection-the-curious-storyteller-4254621)
Published: 2026-07-22T17:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcast.ausha.co/neurodivergentconnection-thecuriousstroyteller/building-safer-paths-to-friendship-and-dating-for-autistic-adults
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## Resource

Why Connection Can Feel So Hard for Autistic Adults—and What Might Help What if the problem isn’t a lack of interest in connection, but years of being misunderstood? In this episode, I sit down with Trista to talk about autism, loneliness, safety, and why finding the right kind of connection can feel so complicated for autistic adults. We explore the gap between being around people and actually feeling known, and we get into the questions many families and professionals still avoid. I’m sharing a conversation about friendship, dating, masking, independence, and the real risks that can come with rejection or manipulation. Trista also explains why she created Capable Hearts, an app designed to help autistic adults meet others in a space built with shared understanding in mind. More importantly, we talk about what true support should look like without taking choice away. If you’ve ever wondered how to support an autistic adult without controlling them, or why “included” doesn’t always mean “connected,” this episode will give you a lot to think about. About the Guest Trista is a BCBA and the creator of Capable Hearts. She has spent years supporting autistic individuals and families, with a strong focus on communication, independence, and meaningful connection. https://shop.adhddd.com/NEURODIVERGENT_CONNECTION Key Timestamps 0:02 - I welcome Trista and ask how she first got into this work 4:48 - The person who changed how she understood autism 8:34 - Looking beneath behavior instead of judging what’s visible 14:53 - Why she felt autistic adults needed a different way to connect 20:25 - Why existing apps didn’t feel safe or supportive enough 24:15 - Isolation, misunderstanding, and autistic loneliness 26:38 - What Trista wanted the app experience to feel like 40:00 - Safety,…

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