# 계속 선택하는 사랑 |Almost Forty Years, Three Countries, and What It Takes to Stay — The One with the Ibikunles: Episode 4 (2026)

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Podcast: [The More Sibyl Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-more-sibyl-podcast-6400548)
Published: 2026-07-02T17:12:49+00:00
Episode link: https://mosibyl.podbean.com/e/theibikunles2026/
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Duration seconds: 6206

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We get honest about the things that quietly pull marriages apart. The years it can take to learn to say sorry and mean it. What it means for home to feel like a castle instead of a battleground, and what happens to a man when respect is withheld until he shuts down. What it means to trust your husband’s place instead of quietly outsourcing it, and we ask the harder question about female friendships: at what point does leaning on your community of women friends start filling a role that should be his? The endless, urgent pull of black tax, and the “tyranny of the urgent” that taught them to protect what was theirs first. What immigration actually reveals about a marriage. The fifteen-minute rule that rescued their worst arguments. And why, in her own words, “the older I get, the more I’m enjoying being married.”

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