# Stop Beating Yourself Up and Listen to This | Kristin Neff

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Podcast: [The Midlife Chrysalis](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-midlife-chrysalis-7361713)
Published: 2026-06-12T10:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/themidlifechrysalis/episodes/Stop-Beating-Yourself-Up-and-Listen-to-This--Kristin-Neff-e3kansg
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Most of us are far kinder to other people than we are to ourselves and according to leading self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff, that may be one of the biggest reasons we struggle with stress, burnout, anxiety, and self-doubt. In this episode, Kristin shares how discovering self-compassion through Buddhism and mindfulness changed her life during a difficult period of divorce, uncertainty, and intense self-criticism. She explains why self-compassion is not weakness or self-indulgence, but a proven tool for resilience, growth, motivation, and emotional wellbeing. Chip and Kristin explore: Why humans are naturally self-critical The hidden cost of tying self-worth to achievement How self-compassion improves performance and reduces anxiety Why midlife often forces us to rethink success and identity The difference between tender and fierce self-compassion This episode is full of practical wisdom, emotional insight, and powerful reminders about what it truly means to care for yourself. Watch now and learn why being kind to yourself can change the way you live, grow, and heal. Timestamps: (04:03) Divorce, Stress, and Self-Criticism (05:28) Learning Mindfulness with Thich Nhat Hanh (07:34) Why Most People Struggle with Self-Compassion (10:06) The Power of Asking What Do I Need (11:51) Why Women Often Ignore Their Own Needs (13:13) Does Self-Compassion Reduce Motivation (16:14) Stress, Performance, and Fierce Self-Compassion (19:08) Growth Mindset and Self-Compassion (22:08) Self-Compassion During Midlife (24:15) Authenticity and Aging (25:15) Letting Go of Old Success Scripts (26:05) Hope, Optimism, and Emotional Resilience (28:57) Can You Have Too Much Self-Compassion (31:06) The Three Elements of Self-Compassion (36:22) Self-Talk and Aging (38:22) Aging, Appearance, and S…

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