# Why We Get Too Attached to the Wrong People (with Dr. Shara Ally)

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Podcast: [The Mental Healness Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019)
Published: 2026-07-18T16:35:00+00:00
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## Resource

In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Shara Ally; psychiatric nurse practitioner, professor, TEDx Top‑50 Charter Speaker, and creator of the viral #TooAttached Movement to talk about why we get too attached to the wrong people and how to rebuild self‑trust after narcissistic and toxic relationships. We dive into her journey from being the “uncool” hyper‑observant kid to leading global work in mental health, human behavior, and emotional resilience, and we unpack the patterns that keep smart, capable people stuck in cycles of shame, over‑functioning, and chasing validation. Dr. Ally shares insights from her upcoming book You Should Have Known Better , her work with NEUROorganics Inc. and Velora S. Press, and her own experiences of being devalued, name‑called, and undermined by partners who weaponized her success. You’ll hear practical tools for breaking old attachment patterns, rising higher in your career and relationships, and rewriting your story with clarity, courage, and compassion—for yourself and others. Connect with Dr. Ally at sharaally.com or by email at hello@sharaally.com, and follow her work as she continues redefining emotional resilience and human transformation.

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