# Why the Narcissist Will Never Truly Pick You

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Podcast: [The Mental Healness Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-mental-healness-podcast-526019)
Published: 2026-07-14T00:06:28+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mentalhealness/episodes/Why-the-Narcissist-Will-Never-Truly-Pick-You-e3m1vta
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## Resource

In this video, I explain why a narcissist will never truly “pick” you in the way you’re hoping for, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on the other side of those choices. We’ll talk about how narcissists see partners as temporary “supply,” why they chase newness and fantasy instead of commitment, and what’s really going on when they discard you for someone else and still keep you on the hook. I’ll break down why it was never about you not being enough, how trauma bonds make you fight to be chosen, and why you can’t win a game that’s rigged to keep you doubting your worth. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to stop auditioning for their approval, see their “rejection” for what it really is, and choose yourself instead of waiting to be picked by someone who only values what you do for them Book a Coaching Session: [ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ]🔥 My Books: [ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ] 🎙 Listen to the Mental Healness Podcast: [ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/@mentalhealnesspodcast?si=AVcJfHa16HZReqHL⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ]

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