# How to Bring Up Kink Without Sounding Creepy with Connell Barrett

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Podcast: [The Kink Consultant](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kink-consultant-7008231)
Published: 2026-05-21T11:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-kink-consultant/episodes/How-to-Bring-Up-Kink-Without-Sounding-Creepy-with-Connell-Barrett-e3jmc0j
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## Resource

Dating coach, Connell Barrett returns to the podcast and this time we’re diving into one of the biggest questions people struggle with in dating: how the hell do you actually bring up kink? In this episode, we talk about how to introduce kink naturally without making someone feel objectified, overwhelmed, or unsafe. Connell shares his perspective as someone who explored the kink world through Feeld, how he rewrote his dating profile to attract kinky women without coming across as creepy, and why “normal” is one of the sexiest compliments you can receive on a dating app. We also get into flirting versus fawning, masculine leadership in dating, why so many men are terrified of being perceived as creepy, and how self-doubt is quietly ruining modern dating. Plus, we unpack why submissive men still need leadership energy, why women often want men to lead the date regardless of kink dynamic, and why kink is really just flirting dialled all the way up. If you’ve ever struggled with talking about sex, introducing kink, or reading the room on a date this episode is for you! Connect with Connell Barrett https://datingtransformation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation/ See you at Hedonism II this October! Use the code TKC50 to get $200 off! https://www.swinkation.com/ Connect with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult Download the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560 Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store

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