# The Kindness Code - Episode 3 - Why transitions are so hard for looked after children

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Podcast: [The Kindness Code](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kindness-code-7795652)
Published: 2026-04-22T23:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/the-kindness-code/episodes/the-kindness-code-episode-3
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Duration seconds: 1262

## Resource

A new placement. A new school. A new key worker. A new bedtime. For most children, transitions are uncomfortable. For looked after children, they can feel catastrophic — and the behaviour that follows is almost always misread. In this episode, Carmel and Chelsea go beneath the surface of what's really happening when a young person "kicks off" during change — and why the nervous system doesn't care that the move is "for their own good." We talk about: What transitions actually trigger in a child with a history of loss Why the smallest changes (a new shift pattern, a different mug, a swapped routine) can land harder than the big ones How adults unintentionally make transitions worse — even with the best intentions What regulation, safety, and trust look like in practice when everything feels unstable The difference between managing a transition and holding a child through one Because transitions aren't events. They're experiences — and how we show up during them shapes what a child believes about adults for years to come. Press play. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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