# 101. Alfonso Costas on The Transition to Fatherhood Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood.md Podcast: [The Kids or Childfree Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428) Published: 2026-04-08T19:23:00+00:00 Episode link: https://81cffad0-1139-4cb7-be39-26dc670a9d20.libsyn.com/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood Audio file: https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/81cffad0-1139-4cb7-be39-26dc670a9d20/KM_-_EP_101_-_Podcast_Audio.mp3?dest-id=4261233 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428/episodes/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood Duration seconds: 3606 ## Resource In this conversation, Keltie is joined by 32-year-old Alfonso Costas โ€” a new dad from Spain, living in Munich with his German wife and their 14-month-old son. Hear Alfonso share: How he knew he wanted to be a dad โ€” and the doubts he encountered along the way. Why he views fatherhood as an "invitation" โ€” rather than a choice made due to pressure. The perspectives on parenthood that allow him to weather its challenges and difficulties. The important conversations he and his wife had to have before trying to conceive โ€” and how they've balanced the responsibilities of raising their son. How he and his wife have navigated their different cultural backgrounds and decisions like where to live. Why he thinks its important for men to take paternity leave. The joy he's finding in parenthood so far. About Alfonso: Alfonso was born and raised in Spain. He moved to the USA to study at age 18, and then to Munich to work as a mechanical engineer at age 24. He's married to German wife with a Vietnamese background and they have a 14-month old son together. Mentioned in the episode: Find Alfonso on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/costasalfonso/ Join the Spring session of our Kids or Childfree Group Program: https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program __ MORE HELP FOR YOUR KIDS OR CHILDFREE DECISION Start Here: sign up for an upcoming WORKSHOP ๐Ÿ”— https://kidsorchildfree.com/workshop Join a GROUP PROGRAM ๐Ÿ”— Kids or Childfree Group Program โ–ธ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/kids-or-childfree-program ๐Ÿ”—Confidently Childfree Group Intensive โ–ธ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/confidently-childfree-group-intensive Access an ON DEMAND class ๐Ÿ”— Peruse the entire On Demand Collection โ–ธ https://www.kidsorchildfree.com/ondemand Join one of our monthly SUPPORT SERIES sessions ๐Ÿ”— Kidsโ€ฆ ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428/episodes/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood/transcription-requests` โ€” Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-kids-or-childfree-podcast-6725428/101-alfonso-costas-on-the-transition-to-fatherhood.md` โ€” Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.