# Changing Your Wife to Get What You Want - Jayson Gaddis - 558 Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558 Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558.md Podcast: [The Jayson Gaddis Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455) Published: 2026-04-07T11:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jaysongaddis/episodes/Changing-Your-Wife-to-Get-What-You-Want---Jayson-Gaddis---558-e3h8o82 Audio file: https://anchor.fm/s/1034ef008/podcast/play/117776066/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2026-3-1%2F421167697-44100-2-69679be95a207.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/episodes/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558 Duration seconds: 824 ## Resource Why does trying to change your partner backfire? Jayson breaks down what happens when you try to get your wife to change when she does not want to, and how unmet expectations turn into resentment. He explains the arrogance behind trying to shape your partner, why behavior change requests often miss the point, and what it actually means to love someone as they are. If you keep pushing for change and not getting it, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 2:53 - Trying to change a partner who doesn’t want to change 5:44 - Resentment from unmet expectations 8:49 - the arrogance of trying to change your partner 10:09 - Stop making behaviour change requests 11:44 - Trying to change someone is not loving them Links: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Relationship School⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Jayson on social media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/episodes/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-jayson-gaddis-podcast-745455/changing-your-wife-to-get-what-you-want-jayson-gaddis-558.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.