# Becky Holmes on Romance Scams

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Podcast: [The Human Risk Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-human-risk-podcast-1190411)
Published: 2026-01-21T15:41:52+00:00
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## Resource

What lies behind Romance Fraud? Romance fraud is one of the fastest-growing forms of fraud worldwide, and one of the most emotionally devastating. It’s also one of the most misunderstood. On this episode, I’m speaking to Becky Holmes , author of the bestselling book Keanu Reeves Is Not in Love With You . Becky didn’t become interested in romance fraud through victimhood or research. She stumbled into it during the pandemic after being approached by scammers online — and instead of ignoring them, she decided to wind them up. What began as a joke — sending absurd messages, inventing ridiculous scenarios, and pushing scam scripts to breaking point — turned into something much more serious. Through humour, Becky uncovered the psychological mechanics of romance fraud: how trust is built, how isolation and gaslighting work, and why believing you’re “too smart to fall for it” is often the most dangerous belief of all. In this conversation, we explore why laughing at scammers is not the same as blaming victims, why romance fraud closely mirrors patterns seen in abusive relationships, and why shame — not stupidity — keeps people trapped. We also talk about humour as a gateway to learning, the limits of victim-focused storytelling, and the uncomfortable truth that none of us are immune. This is a funny conversation in places. And then it isn’t. This is not the first time the Human Risk Podcast has explored romance fraud. On a previous episode, I spoke with Anna Rowe , a victim of romance fraud, about the profound emotional and psychological impact of being deceived by someone you believed you loved. In this episode, we discuss: Why romance fraud is a psychological scam, not a technical one How humour can expose manipulation without mocking victims The striking parallels between…

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