# Episode #58 Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging (And It’s Not What You Think)

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Podcast: [The ExtraOrdinary Self Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-extraordinary-self-podcast-7205939)
Published: 2026-03-15T00:58:29+00:00
Episode link: https://mariadelgaiso.substack.com/p/episode-58-why-you-keep-self-sabotaging
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## Resource

Why do we sometimes sabotage the very things we say we want? In this episode, I unpack a realization I recently had about my own self-sabotage and the frustrating loop that can keep us stuck just below our potential. What if the issue isn’t discipline, talent, or ability? What if it’s safety? Our nervous system is designed to maintain the internal environment it recognizes as safe. Even positive changes like more success, visibility, love, or income can trigger resistance if they fall outside what our system considers familiar. So when we pull back right as something good is about to land, it may not be weakness. It may simply be our nervous system reacting to growth. In this episode I explore the idea of the “upper limit,” how our nervous system creates invisible glass ceilings, and how we can begin expanding our capacity for the life we want. Because often the real question isn’t “Why do I keep sabotaging this?” It’s “What does my nervous system believe is safe for me to have?” Love, M. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mariadelgaiso.substack.com

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