# Episode #56 Stop Punishing Yourself: The Second Wound We Create

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Podcast: [The ExtraOrdinary Self Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-extraordinary-self-podcast-7205939)
Published: 2026-02-17T20:48:21+00:00
Episode link: https://mariadelgaiso.substack.com/p/episode-56-stop-punishing-yourself
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## Resource

In this episode, I talk about pain—not the kind we can avoid, but the kind we add . I reflect on the Buddhist concept of the two arrows : the first is the pain life inevitably delivers. The second is the one we fire into ourselves—through resistance, denial, interpretation, and self-blame. The truth is, pain doesn’t become suffering until we argue with reality. This episode is an invitation to notice where you might be doing the same.Where truth feels uncomfortable.Where acceptance feels like defeat.And where compassion—not control—is actually the way through. If you’ve been feeling stuck, tender, or quietly exhausted from carrying more than necessary, this one is for you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit mariadelgaiso.substack.com

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