# Episode 171 - The Small People-Pleasing Behaviors That Add Up

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Podcast: [The Ex-Good Girl Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423)
Published: 2026-07-22T12:00:00+00:00
Episode link: https://www.sarafisk.coach/
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## Resource

Most women are familiar with what people-pleasing looks like. You say yes when you mean no, avoid conflict, or never ask for what you need. But some of the most exhausting people-pleasing doesn't happen in those big, obvious moments. It happens in tiny ways that have become so automatic we don’t notice them. In this episode, we're looking at these subtle habits through the lens of micro people-pleasing: the invisible, everyday behaviors driven by your nervous system that quietly steal your time, energy, and attention. Once you understand these small tendencies, you can begin interrupting them before they add up. Here's what I cover: The surprising math behind how much time we spend replaying conversations and trying to keep other people happy What micro people-pleasing looks like in everyday life and how it differs from more obvious people-pleasing behaviors A self-assessment exercise to help you identify your own micro people-pleasing patterns Why micro people-pleasing behaviors aren't conscious choices but responses designed to help you feel safe How practicing "the pause" helps you interrupt both big and micro people-pleasing habits Reserve your seat for my next workshop: sarafisk.coach/voice Find Sara here: sarafisk.coach pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversations instagram.com/sarafiskcoach facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333

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