# Episode 158 - When Speaking Up Changes Your Life with Jessica Carlson Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episode-158-when-speaking-up-changes-your-life-with-jessica-carlson Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episode-158-when-speaking-up-changes-your-life-with-jessica-carlson.md Podcast: [The Ex-Good Girl Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423) Published: 2026-04-15T19:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://www.sarafisk.coach/ Audio file: https://episodes.captivate.fm/episode/b045c45e-b027-4564-9016-82c24bd8ea27.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episodes/episode-158-when-speaking-up-changes-your-life-with-jessica-carlson Duration seconds: 2794 ## Resource If you’ve been curious about what it looks like to say what you need to say in practice, today you’ll hear from someone who found her outside voice and is using it to create the life she wants. Jessica Carlson has spent years serving others—as a pastor’s wife, a mom, a teacher, and now supporting college students in getting the resources they need. Jessica and I first connected over our shared background in high-demand religion, and since we began working together, I’ve watched her life transform. She learned to speak up messily and imperfectly, and to support herself through hard conversations that once felt impossible. Jessica’s journey is a powerful example of how everything can shift when women use their voices, not just for themselves, but for the kind of change they want to see in the world. Here’s what we cover: What Jessica’s life looked like when she first joined the Stop People Pleasing group The power that comes from realizing you get to choose the kind of discomfort you feel in relationships Why the goal isn’t always to say no, but to understand you have that option when you need it How a simple step-by-step process helps you find the right words and practice speaking up Jessica’s journey of running for public office and the changes she has made by working on this skill Jessica Carlson is a university career coach and former high school teacher. She lives in the midwest with her husband of 23 years and 2 children, both in college. She has a bachelor’s in English and secondary education and a master’s in education. She was raised in a fundamentalist high-demand religious context and then married a Christian pastor through which church experiences compounded the people pleasing she learned at an early age.  At her core, she serves people but that service… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episodes/episode-158-when-speaking-up-changes-your-life-with-jessica-carlson/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-ex-good-girl-podcast-6037423/episode-158-when-speaking-up-changes-your-life-with-jessica-carlson.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.