# #113 How to Learn BDSM Safely: Choosing the Right Kink Educator with AncillaL

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Podcast: [The Erotic Realm](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-erotic-realm-7139672)
Published: 2026-07-03T14:30:00+00:00
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## Resource

How do you find good educators of BDSM? In this episode educator and author AncillaL returns to the podcast to explore one of the most important—and surprisingly overlooked—topics in kink: BDSM education. We explore: How to choose a BDSM educator. BDSM mentorship. Communities of practice. Skill-based vs role-based learning. Education versus advertising. Building critical thinking in BDSM. Research article : Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice . Connect with AncillaL : https://fetlife.com/AncillaL https://www.patreon.com/c/ancillal?vanity=user https://www.instagram.com/ancillarykinksupport?igsh=MXYzeHBoZWliZjFmZw== Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here . Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here . ProDx Health at home STI testing here . Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here . Kiiroo here . Luxus here . Lovense here . Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here . Desire supplement here . Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to support the podcast, or apply to be a guest. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

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