# #104 The Rope Dominant: Shibari, Power & the Psychology of Surrender with Mark DeViate

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Podcast: [The Erotic Realm](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-erotic-realm-7139672)
Published: 2026-06-02T17:30:00+00:00
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## Resource

Why do some people describe rope as a pathway into trust, presence, and altered states of consciousness? In this episode I sit down with Mark DeViate — Dominant, rope practitioner, polyamorous relationship veteran, and long-time member of the BDSM community, to explore the psychology of surrender, ethical dominance, and the transformative potential of connection-based kink. We explore: • The psychology of ethical dominance. • Shibari, rope bondage, and surrender. • Topspace, flow states, and altered consciousness. • Performance-based kink vs connection-based kink. • Long-term polyamory and relationship longevity. Research article: The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic Review Supporters of The Erotic Realm: Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here . Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here . ProDx Health at home STI testing here . Innovative Sex Tech: Lioness here . Kiiroo here . Luxus here . Lovense here . Science-backed libido support: Flow supplement here . Desire supplement here . Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

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