# [Update] Transactional Relationships

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Podcast: [The Empowered Leader Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-empowered-leader-podcast-7445842)
Published: 2026-06-30T09:09:09+00:00
Episode link: https://substack.iprofessionalcoaching.com/p/update-transactional-relationships
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What You Call Boundaries Is Actually Inherited Scarcity THE DIG “Don’t come over here unless you’re bringing something.” You think it’s a boundary.You think it’s protecting your energy.You think it’s smart to keep score. But what if your transactional approach to relationshipsisn’t wisdomit’s inherited scarcity? What if “I’ll help you if you help me.”Is survival mathcalculated by ancestors who learnedyou can’t afford to give what you won’t get back? Let me show you what’s underneath your ledger. LAYER ONE: When You First Learned It You learned relationships are transactions the day generosity got you hurt. Maybe you were nine shared your lunch and stayed hungry.Maybe you were fifteen helped a friend who disappeared when you needed them.Maybe you were twenty-eight, gave everything to someone who took it all, and left. Your nervous system recorded it: Give freely → get exploited. Help without return → lose resources. Keep score → stay safe. You built a protection system: measure what you give, track what you get back, never be the one who gives more. LAYER TWO: How Your Family Passed It Down Your mother counted costsbecause her mother counted costsbecause her mother survived by never giving what she couldn’t afford to lose. Somewhere back there,someone learned: generosity is luxury you can’t afford when you’re barely surviving. Maybe your grandmother shared food and watched her own children go hungry.Maybe your great-grandfather helped neighbors who never reciprocated when he needed it.Maybe your mother gave and gave until there was nothing left for herself. They didn’t pass down coldness.They passed down math. Survival math that says: Track what you give. Measure what you get. Never be the fool who gives more. LAYER THREE: What Your Culture Taught You If you’re from a m…

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