# Your Child Isn’t Lazy: The ADHD Struggle Parents Often Misunderstand, Episode #176 Page: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916/your-child-isn-t-lazy-the-adhd-struggle-parents-often-misunderstand-episode-176 Text version: https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916/your-child-isn-t-lazy-the-adhd-struggle-parents-often-misunderstand-episode-176.md Podcast: [The Child Psych Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916) Published: 2026-04-01T12:00:00+00:00 Episode link: https://shows.acast.com/the-child-psych-podcast/episodes/adhd-why-traditional-approaches-fail-episode-176 Audio file: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/6728bc98580049df8ffc39c7/e/69cc05fa16bd65d069a99ac3/media.mp3 Processing state: not_requested JSON: https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916/episodes/your-child-isn-t-lazy-the-adhd-struggle-parents-often-misunderstand-episode-176 Duration seconds: 2800 ## Resource In this insightful and deeply validating episode of  The Child Psych Podcast , we sit down with Mike Goldstein — education leader and co-author of  I’ll Do It Later: Surviving School (and Renewing the Love) with Your ADHD Son . Together, we unpack a refreshing and realistic perspective on ADHD — one that moves beyond blame, labels, and quick-fix parenting strategies. Through powerful real-life stories and case studies of boys navigating school, motivation, homework, and everyday life, Mike challenges one of the biggest misconceptions about ADHD: that children simply “aren’t trying hard enough.” Instead, this conversation reveals a much deeper truth. Many children with ADHD genuinely want to succeed, want to please the adults around them, and want to follow through — but struggle with executive functioning skills like task initiation, organization, sustained attention, planning, and follow-through, especially outside highly structured environments like school. We explore why so many traditional parenting and school approaches fail to create lasting change, how technology and shrinking attention spans may be complicating ADHD symptoms, and what actually helps children build motivation, confidence, and independence over time. Most importantly, this episode offers parents a compassionate reframe: ADHD is not a character flaw or motivation problem — it is an execution challenge rooted in how the brain manages attention, regulation, and action. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why ADHD is often misunderstood as laziness or lack of motivation The difference between wanting to do something and being able to initiate it How executive functioning impacts homework, routines, and follow-through Why many ADHD strategies fail over time The impact of technology and at… ## Actions - request_transcript: `POST https://stenobird.com/v1/public/podcasts/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916/episodes/your-child-isn-t-lazy-the-adhd-struggle-parents-often-misunderstand-episode-176/transcription-requests` — Idempotently request low-priority transcript generation for this episode. - read_markdown: `GET https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916/your-child-isn-t-lazy-the-adhd-struggle-parents-often-misunderstand-episode-176.md` — Read the agent-friendly Markdown representation of this episode resource. A page view does not enqueue transcription. Agents should invoke `request_transcript` explicitly when they need this episode processed. ## Transcript Full transcripts are not published on public pages unless there is a clear rights basis.