# How to Deal With Your **** So Your Kids Don’t Have To: Breaking Cycles of Anger, Rejection, and Shame with Eli Harwood

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Podcast: [The Child Psych Podcast](https://stenobird.com/podcast/the-child-psych-podcast-5748916)
Published: 2026-04-15T11:05:15+00:00
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## Resource

In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, we sit down with attachment therapist and author Eli Harwood to explore the heart of her new book, How to Deal With Your $%$! So Your Kids Don’t Have To: An Encyclopedia for Ditching Your Emotional Baggage —releasing April 14. At the core of this conversation is a simple but profound truth: your kids can feel what you don’t heal. Together, we unpack how unprocessed anger, experiences of rejection, and lingering shame can quietly shape the way we show up as parents. These patterns often surface in our hardest moments—during conflict, disconnection, or discipline—and can unintentionally be passed on to the very children we’re trying to support. Eli offers practical, no-nonsense guidance to help parents recognize their emotional triggers, work through their own internal experiences, and respond with greater intention and connection. This is not about perfection—it’s about awareness, repair, and doing the kind of work that changes family patterns over time. In this episode, we explore: *How anger, rejection, and shame show up in parenting *Why children carry what parents don’t process *Tools to begin healing your own emotional patterns *Strategies to handle big emotions in the moment *How to break generational cycles and build secure, connected relationships ✨ Her new book, How to Deal With Your _________! So Your Kids Don’t Have To, releases April 14—your roadmap to shedding emotional baggage and raising children who feel safe, seen, and secure. Order HERE : https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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