# 166: Surviving in the Face of Trauma with Vince Benevento (Boys Will Be Men author & therapist)

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Published: 2026-03-20T10:00:00+00:00
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Duration seconds: 3153

## Resource

Today's guest, Boys Will Be Men author and therapist, Vince Benevento has spent decades of his life helping men battle their own demons and heal their internal environments. Vince was originally attracted to men's mental health after facing his own share of demons in his 20s. But he never imagined how much he'd need to lean on his decades of experience when his life was uprooted in the face of an unspeakable trauma… One day, out of absolutely nowhere, one of his sons developed an unexpected rash that suddenly turned into life-threatening illness. His son spent 135 days in the hospital. Went through multiple surgeries. And at one point, he had a sub 10% chance of surviving. Vince and his wife spent every second in that hospital with their son as he fought to survive. And despite being a therapist, an experience as traumatic (and random) as this caused a swelling of big, heavy emotions. Vince admits that he didn't handle those 135 days in the hospital in the best way. But his son survived. Vince changed as a result. And he gives some pointers on how he would act today if he was thrown into a similar situation, which you'll find instantly applicable to any traumatic event that happens in your life. Today's show is a masterclass in courageous vulnerability. And you'll learn a lot about how to soothe your own internal environment too. Listen now. Here's what Vince and I discuss: How men can have more meaningful and vulnerable conversations with each other The one area I'm personally stuck at in my healing journey (and why so many men get stuck at this point) And, of course, Vince shares the story about how he handled his son's life-threatening illness And more, including… How conventional dialogue between men chokes out your emotions and your ability to connect meaningfully…

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